How 2 Forgive

Forgiveness work is a very important part of any good spiritual practice. It is the process by which we learn to release and let go of negative thoughts and emotions. Carolyn Myss in her book Anatomy of the Spirit says that literally our "biography becomes our biology." That is to say that how we live and think directly effects our body and health. Myss says that we literally carry every experience we've ever had in the energy field surrounding our bodes like luggage. There they remain coloring how we see and interact with the world. These thoughts and emotions can be like toxins in that body that need to be released and healed. That's why forgiving is so important. Eventually, you'll find that there is nothing to forgive (and not because you become so holy that nothing happens to you).

I talk about forgiveness a lot and have had people tell me that it is impossible to be totally forgiving, as if there are certain things that are simply not forgivable. Know that all you need is a willingness to forgive, a willingness to let go, a willingness to heal, the Universe takes care of the rest.

Forgiving someone is not condoning their actions, I am not saying that. What it is doing is setting you free from their actions. Free from judging a person or group. Free from any emotional ties. Free from the thoughts of what they should have done or said. Anytime you hold anger, judgment, or any other emotion towards something you have established a cosmic connection to it. You are tied emotionally to that which you think about. Don't be deceived into thinking that simply because it is not in the forefront of your thoughts that it is gone, its just buried. From its grave it still reaches out to you. So forgiving is not a gift you give away, it is a gift you give yourself. It is your freedom from the bonds that tie you to what has past.

This is one of those subjects that I would have to write a lot more in order to give it proper attention. You can order an audio tape or audio tape series on this subject. A video is also available.

Having access to the person you need to forgive is not necessary. Work on the level of the absolute. Say a prayer like this:

The Christ in me forgives and releases the Christ in __________ (say the person's name). Then do the reverse: The Christ in _________ forgives and releases the Christ in me.

Change around the words in this to make it your own. Don't get caught up on God consciousness, Christ consciousness or the holy spirit. Say what you like, what makes you comfortable.

Pray Dear God, I don't know how to forgive this person and my heart feels as if it has been reaped from me. Heal my heart, heal the places in me that still have pain. Show me how to forgive this person. Heal the fear that I have of letting this go. Thank you Dear God for showing me the way. Amen.

The willingness to forgive is what is important.